If you are in the final stages of your pregnancy and have recently chosen an open adoption for your newborn, it can be disconcerting and confusing if you all of a sudden feel unease about your decision and are second guessing everything pertaining to your baby's future life. This is a normal reaction that many women experience. Take the time to explore your feelings and reassure yourself that the decision that you have made is the best one.
Speak To A Counselor About Your Uncertainties
The adoption agency that you are using to prepare and finalize the adoption likely have an adoption counselor on site who will be open to discussing your feelings whenever you would like to. Counseling sessions can be held via phone or in person, and you can divulge as much or as little as you would like during a private session.
Tell the counselor that you are not sure if you are making the best choice for you and your baby. Reveal thoughts of inadequacy or guilt if they are prevalent and have been interfering with your daily life. A counselor will help you weigh your options and will point out all of the benefits that you and your newborn will attain by choosing to go through with the adoption.
You, of course, are welcome to change your mind about giving your baby up for adoption and won't be pressured to go through the adoption process. A counselor is there to merely guide you and has your best interests in mind. Remember that you have chosen adoption because you are selfless and have an infinite amount of love for your child. This does not make you a bad person. In fact, it makes you a great, caring individual who wants the best for her child.
Spend More Time With The Adoptive Family
If you have already chosen the adoptive parents, maybe you haven't spent as much time with them as you would like or still have questions weighing on your mind that pertain to the way they will care for your child and how they plan to keep you involved. There is nothing wrong with reaching out to the prospective adoptive parents and asking them if they would meet with you on a more frequent basis.
Social outings, informal dinners, and one-on-one chat sessions that are held with the potential parents will help you forge a personal relationship with the adoptees.
Don't be afraid to ask questions concerning your involvement. You need to know how the adoptive parents plan on treating you once your baby is born. Occasional get-togethers, written letters, and video chats can all be added to your adoption plan if you desire and these three things will keep you involved in your baby's life. For more information on placing a baby for adoption, contact an adoption agency today.
